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Tender 1 |ˈtɛndə| showing gentleness, kindness, and affection.
It is that day of the year again, when roses and chocolates are expensive, where restaurants are filled to the brim, where love plagues the city.
Have a great day everyone! Make sure to spoil one another but not just today but every day. Be tender, be patient.
Here is a quote from one my favourite book about love.
The child teaches the adult something else about love: the genuine love should involve a constant attempt to interpret with maximal generosity what might be going on, at any time, beneath the surface of difficult and unappealing behavior
The parent has to second-guess what the cry, the grief, the kick or the anger is really about. And what marks out this project of interpretation – and makes it so different from occurs in the average adult relationship- is its charity. Parents are apt to proceed from the assumption that their children, though they may be troubled or in pain, are fundamentally good. As soon as the particular pin that is jabbing them is correctly identified, they will be restored to native innocence. When children cry, we don’t accuse them of being mean or self-pitying; we wonder what has upset them. When they bite, we know they must be frightened or momentarily vexed. We are alive to the insidious effects that hunger, a tricky digestive tract or a lack of sleep may have on mood.
How kind we would be if we managed to import even a little of this instinct into adult relationships – if here, too, we could look past the grumpiness and viciousness and recognize the fear, confusions, and exhaustion which invariably underlie them. This is what it would mean to gaze upon the human race with love
– The Course of Love, Allain de Botton
Happy valentines day everyone!