Hey, 2016! Thank you! Another year filled with adventures, choices, decisions, mistakes and victories.
You came and went in an instant. Made the world grasp to the fact that you are now gone and a new year is here. The only trail you left were the memories, experiences, mistakes and successes that we acquire and will be carrying throughout our lifetime. How crazy is that tho! 365 days, 8760 hours, gone. The best part about it? We have absolute control on what we fill each of those hours.
But with all these events and realisations, 2016 thought me four main lessons.
One of the most important lessons I learnt this year, is the value of knowledge.We live in a society where information is accessible in an instant; information is received in a rapid and overwhelming state, where the number of likes determines the credibility of an article, where knowledge is trivial, and fame is paramount. This awareness allowed me to remain conscious and diligent on things I read or learn. This realisation gave me the hunger to continuously learn and expand what I know (this may not show as my troll persona tend to triumph over my serious side). It is one of the best investment I made, a perpetual investment. To remain ideal and complacent is a road to and end
Book Recommendation: Influence by Robert Cialdini/ Demon Haunted World by Carl Sagan/ 1984 by George Orwell
Death is inevitable (along with time and tax), we all know it will come someday, so I supposed there is no point for me to stress on that point. Rather, I’d like to mention one other benefit of acknowledging this fact; it allows you to stay and be realistic. When you priories in a very strict manner, have time or limitation or when you are on edge. Everything becomes clear; you know how to connect the dots, which perspectives to contract or expand. On the other side knowing death will come someday allows us to live freely, carelessly and without restriction makes it possible to live without limitation, without fear and makes it possible to live day by day without distress. Both concepts or ideas are healthy. However, as always the medium is desirable, the balance between the spectrum. But, the important point is that whichever approach you practice, they both give you an advantage; to be present in life.
Book Recommendation: When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi/ The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Mason/ No Longer Human by Osamu Dazai
- Responsibility or Embrace
To embrace who you are and take responsibility for everything you do. Take ownership of every decision may the outcome be negative or positive. And accept who you are and who you want to be, we live in a world where conformity is easy, and authenticity is hard.
Book Recommendation: Quiet By Susan Cain/ 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephe R Covey/ The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Mason / No Longer Human by Osamu Dazai
- Hearty in Approbation
This last point was possible because of a reminder from a friend. Towards the end of the year, my friend Robert and I were having a recap on how the year went. One of the things he mentioned is that throughout the year he realised how much joy the successes of his friends gave him. And that strummed a chord that I almost forgot, the emotion of being grateful and happy to other people’s success. It is a principle I follow; to give support and love to anyone when I can or where I can and to cherish people success as mine and to uplift them. Jealousness, negativity, bitterness and grudge are human emotions but most of the time, unnecessary. So rather than indulge in those emotions why not just spread the love :).
Book Recommendation: Quiet by Susan Cain/ How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie/ The Course of Love by Allain De Button
That’s a wrap! It was a good year of learning, and I couldn’t be more grateful this year, so I want to say thanks to the world, to my friends and to every single person I met. I wish to know you all better ( FYI, I am not very good with small talks 😦 .)
I hope you all had a good year and took away something from it! Both the bad ones and the good ones. Happy new year everyone! May this be a year of victory! And Hello 2017! I welcome you with arms wide open and a big smile. : )
“Death is the light by which the shadow of all of the life’s meaning is measured. Without death, everything would feel inconsequential, all experience arbitrary, all metrics and values suddenly zero.”
‘The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.”
“Love is essential; gregariousness is optional. Cherish your nearest and dearest. Work with colleagues you like and respect. Scan new acquaintances for those who might fall into the former categories or whose company you enjoy for its own sake. And don’t worry about socialising with everyone else. Relationships make everyone happier, introverts included, but think quality over quantity.
The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some it’s a Broadway spotlight; for others, a lamplit deal. Use your natural powers – of persistence, concentration, insight, and sensitivity – to do work you love and work that matters. Solve problems, make art, think deeply.”
“Books changed all that. Books, purchasable at low cost, permit us to interrogate the past with high accuracy; to tap the wisdom of our species; to understand the point of view of others, and just those in power; to contemplate- with the best teachers – the insights, painfully extracted from Nature, of the greatest minds that ever were, drawn from the entire planet and from all of ou history. They allow people long dead to talk inside our heads. Books can accompany us everywhere.Books are patient where we are slow to understand, allow us to go ver the hard parts as many times as we wish, and are never critical to our lapses. Books are key to understanding the world and participating in a democratic society.”