How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie
This book was written 1936, it is old and some people may argue that the book is redundant, out of date perhaps. But! This is one of those books where you can always refer back to, that is timeless, and provides a different insight every time you read it. The main contents of the book are:
- Fundamental techniques on how to handle people
- Ways to make people like you
- How to win people in your way of thinking
- Be a leader: How to change people without giving offense or arousing statement.
This is actually the second time I read this book. I decided to read it again because it feels like I am missing something. Felt like I have been quick to criticize people, and lost some of my prudence & eloquence when it comes to dealing with people. So I decided to revisit, one of the books that guided my perspective for the better and provided me with techniques and understanding on how to communicate and social.
I was inept when it comes to social settings and communication. Then this book came along which was a life-changing experience for me. Hence, I was delighted & thrilled to read it again, share to you all what I learned. So here are some of the points that spoke to me this time.
- Don’t criticize, condemn and complain – I believe this is something I have been doing more frequently. This chapter reminded me of why it is important not to criticize nor condemn.
- Give honest and sincere appreciation – This used to be one of my main strengths and a skill I aspire to deliver. However, recently I have been dull and ungrateful. It was important to be reminded how such small actions can lead to big and better results.
- The section about How to win people in your way of thinking contains plenty of practical techniques and information that can be immediately and easily applied. Great reminder on simple actions to take to become a much more effective communicator.
- Be a good listener and humble – I believe some of the core messages of this book, is to be humble and to be a good listener. I believe these two qualities are essential in the path to becoming a compelling communicator and leader. Often people just wants someone to listen to them, and humbleness is an endearing quality.
This is just a small snippet of what the book offers. I absolutely recommend this book, especially if you are looking for a book to improve your communication skill or eager to learn more about social interactions. The book is abundant in information, and the author’s language is comprehensible and gentle. The book contains vibrant stories and historical figures that will captivate and inspire readers. I will seldom read this book, as I am confident that I will learn something new and invigorate my heart.
That is it for me! If you guys recommend any other books, comment them down below. : ) Stay warm and have a great evening.
“Hearty in my approbation and lavish in my praise.” – Charles Schwab